There have been so many things going on over the past few weeks that I guess I've had trouble coalescing my thoughts into something "blogworthy"-that being said, there has been something that has been bothering me for some time now.
Mainly: that I don't feel like being touched.
More to the point, I don't feel like getting, you know, intimate.
My sweet loving understanding wonderful husband is having a hard time with this. And I don't blame him! His stupid friends have been telling him that he should have known all along: Marriage=No Sexy Time. Or at the least less and less and less sexy time.
I don't want him to think that its him. Because its not! I just don't want to. I know its cliche, but I'm tired and I have a headache. I'm more than willing to cuddle, but mostly I just want to sleep.
To be honest the idea usually makes me a little sick to my stomach. How weird is that?
I feel better in the mornings ("morning sickness" is SUCH a misnomer) but we usually have so much going in that it feels like work to try to fit in a little "us" time.
Plus now it hurts sometimes, and I find myself feeling all protective and mama bear-ish. I know its normal and healthy to have sex when you're pregnant, but I just feel so off all of the time.
It makes me feel so horrible! In fact I'm crying a little bit while I write this (but that's not really news, as I'm pretty much a walking puddle these days).
I just feel so bad for Brandon. It has got to be hard dealing with the crazy woman that I have become. He never (ever) says anything to make me feel bad, but I can just tell that he's disappointed.
Maybe I should buy him some porn?
Don't go the porn rout, seriously... Just have a nice little chat with your man about how you feel and that you understand how he feels... Once morning sickness tapers off, you might be more into it.. Every woman is different when pregnant. Some want to have sex all the time, some hate it, and some are somewhere in the middle.
ReplyDeleteGive it a little time and if he's just going crazy, give him a "helping hand" if you know what I mean.
Marriage and no sex is such a cliche. Marriage is what you make it. If you're feeling good in the morning.. wake up a few minutes (or half an hour) early and put in a little fun time. Go slow, you're still trying to figure out what your crazy body is trying to tell you. :)
Sometime after your first trimester, you will probable get the urge more often than not. It happens to a lot of women.
ReplyDeleteLol. I was kidding about he porn. But really, I would so much rather take a nap! You guys make me feel better though. Its tough being out here without any of my girlfriends to talk to!
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